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Why do we work with shame?

Shame is a complex and influential emotion that provides a powerful window into experiences and processes that affect our daily lives. Shame can be a highly active emotion--albeit often hidden--within organizations, where it can affect individuals and teams, shape environment and culture, and influence outcomes. In particular, we work with shame because...

Shame is the 'master emotion.'

Shame evolved for a reason: we need it in a functioning society, and it regulates our social behaviors in meaningful ways. Shame is an emotion to be engaged with, not avoided or denied.

Shame can be destructive.

Despite its prosocial potential, shame can fuel intrapersonal distress, impair relationships, undermine psychological safety, and reinforce inequity. These tendencies create significant challenges within organizations, especially when shame is wielded as a tool to reinforce hierarchies, exert power, or control others.

Shame can be hidden behind challenging behaviors.

Shame is painful and itself taboo. Accordingly, people engage in behaviors to avoid or repress it, including withdrawing, blaming, attacking, and self-harm. These behaviors may drive intrapersonal distress,  interfere with relationships, and provoke defensive responses from others. 

Shame is a distributed emotion.

Shame is a uniquely individualized emotion: no two people will experience it in the same way. However, its presence and effects are found throughout an organization: in relationships, in teams, in the culture, and in the practices, policies, and material conditions that form its structure.

Its presence must be addressed at each of these levels.